Alan R. Surette

March 8th, 2019

Alan Surette, 66 of Wilmington, formerly of Woburn, passed away on March 6 with his loving family and his friends by his side. After suffering cardiac arrest, he fought valiantly to stay with his family, but his injuries were too severe.

He was born in Malden on August 22, 1952 to Mary (Hanson) and Henry Gerald Surette. Alan’s dad passed away when Alan was only 8. His mom carried on to make a life for Alan, his older brother Jerry, and sister Susan. After Mary met and married his step-dad, Anthony Montecalvo, Alan’s family expanded to include step- brothers, Anthony, Joseph, and Ralph and step-sister Diane. His half-brother David and half-sister Patti joined the family within a few years. One of Alan’s fondest memories was when they would all get packed into the back of the station wagon and head to Bella Vista.

Alan graduated from Woburn High in 1970 and ITT in 1972. He was a technical engineer for Xerox Corp for over 25 years and later for Konica Minolta.

Alan was a sports enthusiast, particularly winter sports. For many years Alan and Carol would travel with friends to N.H., and he would ski down Tuckerman’s Ravine with his buddies.

Hockey was his favorite sport. He played for the semi-pro Lowell Chiefs in the 70’s and continued league hockey until he was 50. He was a Bruins enthusiast, but his favorite player was his grandson Kellan. They spent many hours discussing and sharing their love of hockey. Kellan often had his Grampie out playing hockey before the bus came for school and would continue on after he got home from school. Alan was looking forward to passing on this tradition to his buddy, Keagan. Grampie also gave Keagan his own hockey stick and had him playing his own version of hockey.

Alan and Carol met when they were 15. He quickly became a member of her family and had a special bond with her mother and father, the late Mary and Joseph Duffy. After finishing high school, college, and growing up together, they married in 1975. They are each other’s rocks, best friends, and favorite companions, and have been blessed with 43 years of marriage. They always held hands and their walks on Wells Beach will be forever in their hearts. Their greatest joy was when their daughter Jessica was born in 1980. Alan would beam whenever she was near, and anyone who happened to be within 5 feet of him would hear all about his “Dollie”. Their bouncy ball games were crazy. He enjoyed going to all of her skating competitions, soccer games, and various other sporting events. He is her biggest fan. Alan loved spending time with his nieces and nephews and their friends as well, and he was the unofficial Pied Piper of Lakeshore Park and Kezar Lake. In recent years, Alan also made many new friends in Wilmington and was often referred to as a best friend to those parents who frequented the bus stop when dropping off the kids for school.

In 2005 Jessica married Patrick and the 3 musketeers became 4. He was very proud of Patrick and would speak often of watching him grow from a young man, to a mechanic, to a husband, to a state trooper, and then to his most important role as a father.

Alan became a grandfather in 2008 when Mackenzie was born. Then came Madison, Kellan, and just last June, Keagan. His proudest role was that of grampie or, as he was also affectionately known as “Grandpie”. He never missed a school event, practice, game, or the girls’ dance competitions and shows.

Although a stroke slowed him down a bit in 2015, he tried to attend as many soccer and hockey games as possible. He was so grateful to be able to spend the last few months laughing and playing and yes napping with Keagan.

He was so proud to see Kenzie and Maddie Rose go from taking their first dance steps to winning medals in their latest competition. He loved “switching” ice creams with Kenzie at Forbes and snuggling with Maddie while watching their favorite shows.

Alan continued his joy of children as he swam and played with his grandchildren at Sea Vu South. He also enjoyed finding crabs and building sand castles with them at Wells Beach.

Alan enjoyed traveling, cruising, casinos, hockey, trips to Disney with Jess and Pat and the kids, shows in Ogunquit with Joanie and Jim, and spending time with his best friends John and Adriana, and his chats with his “bus stop buddies”. His greatest love was his family.

He is lovingly adored and greatly missed by his wife, Ca, his “Dollie” Jess, his son-in-law Pat, and his grand-babies Kenze (Tinkerbell), Maddie (Sweetie pie), Kellan (my buddy), and Keagan (Keags). They know he will always be watching over them.

Family and friends will gather at the Nichols Funeral Home, 187 Middlesex Ave. (Rte. 62), Wilmington, on Monday, March 11th at 9:00 a.m. followed by a Mass of Christian Burial in St. Thomas of Villanova Church, 126 Middlesex Ave., Wilmington at 10:00 a.m. Interment Wildwood Cemetery, Wilmington. Visiting Hours will be held at the Funeral Home on Sunday, March 10th from 4:00-8:00 p.m.

Memorial donations in Alan’s name may be made to the Juvenile Arthritis Foundation, 1355 Peachtree St NE, Suite 600, Atlanta, GA 30309 or St. Jude’s Children’s Research Hospital, 262 Danny Thomas Place, Memphis, TN 38105.


14 Entries in Guest Book for “Alan R. Surette”

  1. Tom Surette says:

    So very sorry for this terrible loss – thoughts and prayers go out to all of you.
    Tom & MaryJane Surette

  2. John Gerhartz says:

    Jess, Pat and family, so sorry to hear about the passing of your dad, Kris and I send our heartfelt thoughts and prayers you all at this difficult time. Love to you all. Kris and John

  3. Anthony & Cynthia Montecalvo says:

    Our hearts are broken for the loss of Alan. Our thoughts and prayers to the Surette Family Anthony & Cindy

  4. Eileen Conway-Martin says:

    To the family, I am at a loss for words. Alan was such a wonderful guy with a huge heart for everyone. He always gave us a great welcome when we would come home to visit. My heart goes out to his devoted family and grandchildren. They were his world. Love and prayers to all of you. Eileen and John Martin

  5. Beverly Pysczynski says:

    So sorry for your loss Love and Prayers to all

  6. samuel coiro says:

    So sorry for Jerry and family, my memories and prayers too all…….


    No words can explain the loss of a son, husband, father, grandfather, brother, cousin, uncle,and friend. I know Alan’s love and light will continue to be with us all and forever. I love you Alan

  8. (Gamboa) Costello says:

    Carol, Jess, & Family -

    Our thoughts & prayers are with you at this time. Words cannot express, please know how deeply saddened we are of Alan’s passing.

    Our deepest condolences – love, Kaetlyn, Mike, & Kathy (Gamboa) Costello

  9. Joanie Daggett says:

    Carol, Jess, and Family,

    So sorry to hear the sad news of Alan’s passing!! I can still see him standing in the back of St. Margaret’s Church during 4:30 mass with his family. May you be showered with a lifetime of warm memories of an amazing person!

  10. David Montecalvo says:

    My brother Allen was a great guy .as a brother he always taught me alot …I will miss ya bro ,so very sorry Carol jess and pat and to all those beautiful grandchildren

  11. Jessica Scanlon says:

    I will always love you and keep you in my heart forever! I cannot even begin to fathom just how much i am going to miss you. My heart is already broken and this seems so unreal. Forever you Dollie. I love you dad…miss you more!!!!

  12. Joe Rogers says:

    Enjoyed working with Alan at Konica Minolta. He taught me a lot about the industry when I first stared. He’s been missed in the field. I’m so very sorry for you loss.

  13. Harry Lebel says:

    Carol and Jess, I feel your missing Alan and your Dad. I too miss him. He is now in heaven, no more physical suffering and within God’s love for every moment in time and forever. Alan and your Dad will always watch over each and every one of his family and friends

  14. Anne Fleming Morrissey says:

    Dear Carol Ann, Dec. 2019- I just read about Allen and am so sorry. I was looking up your correct address. We will send a donation in his memory to St Jude’s Children’s Hosp. I would love to visit you in the Spring time. I have such fond memories of childhood spent in Wilmington Take care of yourself during this hard time of yr. Love to you & family. Anne & James Morrissey stranded in NY)(1st cousin)

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