Carciero, Jay

October 28th, 2009

carcierojayJay M. Carciero, age 37, of Reading, formerly of Stoneham, died Wednesday, October 27, 2009.

Born in Melrose, MA, on June 22, 1972, Jay was the dear son of Keith M. & Kathleen (Lynch) Trider of Melvin Village, NH, and the late Calvin Carciero. Jay grew up in Stoneham, MA and was a graduate of Stoneham High School. He was an avid athlete in both football and track during high school and was honored by receiving the All Middlesex League Award. Following high school, Jay continued to excel in sports as well as academics, he played football at Bridgeton Academy in Maine as well as Mass. Maritime Academy in Bourne, MA. Jay transferred colleges and continued his education at Salem State College, earning a Bachelor’s Degree in Business. At the time of his death Jay was studying towards his Masters Degree at Endicott College in Beverly, MA.

Jay will be fondly remembered by family and friends as a devoted father and loving husband, he was always doting on his children whether it was rooting on his son at a football game, attending a school function, or doing his daughter’s hair for a dance recital. Jay enjoyed fishing and his “family trips” to the beach, Cape Cod, and Lake Winnipesaukee — anything to have “family fun”. Jay will be greatly missed and was deeply loved by his family, friends, and neighbors.

Jay was the beloved husband of 12 years and best friend of Kim M. (Russo) Carciero of Reading, formerly of Wilmington, devoted and loving father of James, Gianna, Angelina, & Carissa Carciero all of Reading, dear brother of John Carciero of Woburn, Krista Gorman & her husband Joseph of Lynnfield, and Brendan Trider of Winchester, grandson of Francis “Mike” & the late Angelina Lynch of Medford, and James & Jane Trider of Woburn, son-in-law of Joanne & the late James Russo of Wilmington, brother-in-law of Tammy & John Pizzarella of Saugus, grandson-in-law of Helen & Frank Florentino of Winchester, uncle of Lacey, Liam, Ryan, Anna, Jon-Jon, & Talia. Jay is also survived by many aunts, uncles, cousins, and dear friends.

Family & friends will gather at the Nichols Funeral Home, Inc., 187 Middlesex Ave. (Rte. 62), Wilmington on Saturday, October 31st, at 8:45 a.m. followed by a Funeral Mass in St. Agnes Church, 186 Woburn St., Reading at 10:00 a.m. Interment Oak Grove Cemetery, Medford. Visiting hours Friday, October 30th from 4-9 p.m.

Memorial donations in Jay’s name may be made to the Carciero Children’s Fund, c/o Stoneham Municipal Federal Credit Union, 40 Pine St., Stoneham, MA 02180.


36 Entries in Guest Book for “Carciero, Jay”

  1. The O'Shea family says:

    Gianna and family,
    You are in our thoughts and prayers. We are so very sorry for your loss.
    The O’Sheas

  2. Sue, Ben, Tommy & John House says:

    We are thinking and praying for all of you. We love you guys and please know that we are here for you all in any and every way. Stay strong and take it one day at a time. May the love of God and your family & friends give you peace & hope.

  3. Mike Belskis says:

    I was deeply saddened to hear of Jay’s passing. My deepest condolences go out to his family. I was a friend of his older brother John and I wanted the family to know that they are in my thoughts and prayers.

  4. Linda Beauchesne Casey says:

    Dear Kim,Children, Keith, Kathy and family
    I just want to let you know how deeply sad I am at this time for you and
    your family I know all too well the loss your feeling at this time and hope
    that God gives you the strength from your family and friends at this time
    to get through one of the most difficult times you will ever have to experience . You are in my heart and thoughts at this time and I will pray
    for all of you.

  5. Chris Boles says:

    My condolences to Jay’s family. I knew Jay from working at Lahey Clinic in Peabody. He was always very professional, helpful and a pleasure to work with. Your family will be in my thoughts & prayers.

  6. Connie Marasco says:

    My deepest sympathy goes out Jay’s family and friends. I am so very sorry for your loss. My memories of Jay will always be of a kind man who always had a smile on his face and was always willing to help someone in need. God bless and be with you now and in the days/years ahead.

  7. Stacie Murphy says:

    Kim and family: You’re in my thoughts and prayers, I am very sorry to hear about your loss. If there is anything I can do, I am there for you and your family.

  8. Cynthia A Jokinen says:

    I am sorry for your sudden loss. I hope your memories of Jay give you all comfort. You kids take care of your Mom. I wish I could be there to hug all you kids; I am studying to be a teacher. Cindy J

  9. The Haggerty family says:

    My thoughts and prayers go out to the entire Carciero family. His loss deeply saddens me and he will be missed dearly. I was friends with Jay and several other of his close friends when we graduated high school. Jay’s friends will always remember him as a good caring friend with an always warm and inviting personality. God bless.

  10. Lorraine (Fantasia) Jackson says:

    I was so sad to hear about Jay…. I grew up with him and John and he was always such a nice kid and he will be greatly missed. I just wanted to let you know you are in my thoughts and prayers. May God give you strength, peace and guidance through these trying times.

  11. Jim and Jane Trider says:

    Jane and I were so sad when we heard about Jay. What a terrible loss to Kim and the kids. Our warmest thoughts and deepest condolences to her and the children on the loss of a good guy and a wonderful father. To our son Keith, Kathleen, John,Krista and grandfather Mike our sincere condolences.—–Jane also remembers what a great guy and grandson he was, so proud of his wife and children–a great dad doing the father thing–he will be greatly missed and thought of often.

  12. Maria (Rotondi) Fair says:

    I was deeply saddened to hear about Jay. Please know you are all in my thoughts and prayers.

  13. Marissa Volpe says:

    Dear Kim,
    I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. My deepest condolences go out to you, your children and Jays’ family. Your all in my thoughts & prayers during this difficult time

  14. Amy Ottaviano says:

    My thoughts, prayers and well wishes are with you all. I recall Jay as a sweet and tender boy from High School with a wonderful smile. I was friendly with John and knew Jay only in passing but am deeply saddened by your loss of a son, brother, husband and father. You are loved and supported by all who knew Jay. God bless. Amy

  15. The DiNitto Family says:

    We were shocked and deeply saddened at the news of this terrible tragedy. We want to express our sympathies to all of you and hope that you find solace in knowing that his four beautiful children will carry Jay’s heart and soul within them forever. We will never forget Jay or the special friendship we have with you. Take care.
    Winnie, Sasha, and Mikala

  16. Ron Sullivan & The Horseshoe Grille Family says:

    Kim and family, we are all deeply saddened to learn of your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are for all of you.

    As many of your wonderful friends and family have come forward, always remember your friends and family at The Horseshoe are here for you also. If there is anything we may do, to make your lives better, please don’t hesitate to call upon us,you know you won’t have to ask more than once.

  17. Kristi (Glover)Chinappi says:

    Kim,and Family~ I was so saddened to hear about the passing of Jay. I had 3 of the kids in preschool and also worked with Kim and I can just remember what a wonderful family they were and how excited the kids would get when Jay would come pick them up from school. They would light up with joy. Jay was a very nice man ans a great father and husband. My thoughts and prayers are with the whole family. I am thinking of you. ~Kristi Chinappi

  18. Steve McGlinchey says:

    Dear Kim and Family, i’m so sorry for your loss.. You will be in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.. Kim, I know it’s really tough and easier said then done, but you must stay strong for your children..

  19. Noel & Diane Jones says:

    Our thoughts and prayers are with the entire Carciero family. This was a tremendous loss for everyone. God, keep an eye on those four lovely children and let them know their father loved them.

  20. Ed & Betty Trider says:

    Dear Kim, Kathleen, Keith and Family,
    We were terribly saddened to learn of your tragic and most devastating loss. Our deepest sympathy and love goes out to you and your family. We hope and pray that the healing passage of time and the loving support of your extended family and friends helps you, and especially the children, cope with this incomprehensible tragedy. Please, please call on us any time, day or night, 7/24/365, that you feel the need to talk.
    Ed & Betty

  21. Pam Finnerty R N says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. Jay was a wonderful addition to our early family at Lahey Clinic. He always had such a nice way about him and everyone really liked and respected him. We always enjoyed when the children came in to visit. I pray for God’s comfort for all your family.

  22. Roseann Conti says:

    I was so deeply saddened to hear of your tragic loss. It’s been years since I’ve seen Jay but he always was such a truly nice person. I’m certain he will be remembered for the wonderful son, brother, husband and father he surely turned out to be. My prayers are with you all and know that you have the support of many as well as each other to cope during this sad and difficult time. My heart goes out to Jay’s children and his entire family – God bless you all and know you’re in my thoughts.

  23. Walter Trider says:

    Dear Kim & Jays Family,
    When I remember Jay, I remember all American; an apple pie kind of guy, always a smile, with an inner drive that I admired very much. His passing is a tragic mistake and I pray for God to welcome his newest working angel and to fill his family with the faith and fortitude to get beyond this tough time, as Jay would have done himself. May you find comfort in your family and the outpouring of support from your friends. Jay has gone on to help with bigger things in Heaven, his time has begun, not ended. Although it is tough to process such loss, Jay is now truly doing the work of Our Lord and will light our way when our time has come…..

  24. Alison McIntosh Seabury says:

    I was deeply shocked and saddened to hear of the tragic loss of Jay. He was always a quiet gentle soul with a shy kind of laugh. The last time I saw him he walked by me at work. We shared a hug and a few laughs and the first thing he did was pull out his pictures of his children. He was so proud. I am glad I have that memory. Take Care, God Bless and know that Jay and your entire family are in the thoughts and hearts of so many forever.

  25. Christina Petrocelli Bain says:

    I am so deeply saddened to hear about the tragic loss of Jay. I went to High School with Jay and remember him as a quiet kid. Jay was always everyone’s friend, so down to earth. My heart goes out to his entire family, especially to his wife and children……. God Bless, and may you find the strength to get through these difficult times……………You are being thought about and prayed for by so many people….Be Strong…….

  26. manganro says:

    all ours thoughts are with you and the kids be strong take care ron and mary manganaro

  27. Renee Ferraro Heffron says:

    Jay was always a kind gentle soul. He will be missed so much. I will be praying for his entire family especially his wife and children at this extremely difficult time. Sometimes prayer is our only answer at this time. God Bless you Jay and please know how very lucky we all were to know you.

  28. Paul and Betsy Rotondi says:

    Dear Family,

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this tragic time in your lives. Your reputation as a wonderful and loving family is shared by so many. I hope the support of all will help and strengthen you. God Bless.

  29. Heather (Scott) Wells says:

    Dear Kim,
    It’s been a very long time, but we worked together years ago at Puddle Duck Daycare. I came to your wedding and I remember how excited you were to start your family with Jay. We’ve bumped into each other a few times over the years and each time you had added to your family!
    I have been so saddened by your tragic loss and wanted to let you know that so many people are thinking of you and your family during this difficult time. I hope you feel the strength and support surrounding you in the difficult days ahead and embrace it to help you move forward.

  30. Pete Breslin says:

    My thoughts and prayers go out to your family. I will always remember the good times we had playing football at Bridgton Academy, fishing on Long Lake, going to the beach and just sitting around laughing with friends. It has been a number of years since we have gotten together but I have always considered you a very close friend. I will never forget you good buddy!!

  31. Kathy O'Connor Palmer says:

    I am so very sorry for your loss! I was not very close to Jay but remember him well from High School and working at Lahey with him and Krista, as well as knowing his Mom from school also. I remember a very quiet, gentle man who was very much liked by everyone. My thoughts and prayers go out to his wife, children and the rest of the Carciero family. God Bless!!

  32. Jacqueline Carchide says:

    Kathy & Keith,

    My whole family is so sorry about the tragic loss of Jay. Our most sincere condolences go out to you, and to all of Jay’s family. We can’t imagine what you’re all going through. God bless you all. You are all in our thoughts and prayers. Hold on to the memories. In the end, it’s what keeps us going.

    Love from The Carchide Family,

    John and Jackie, Johnny, Michelle & Family, Nicole & Will, & Scotty

  33. Roger & Mary Fauvel says:

    Dearest John,
    Our deepest deepest sympathy to you & your family…Our thoughts and prayers are with you, your family, his wife, & children.
    Roger & Mary

  34. Joanne McKenney says:

    I pray that time will allow the happy memories to replace the sorrow of your sudden loss.

  35. Maria Caetano says:

    Kim & Family,
    My thoughts and prayers are with the entire Carciero family. Jay was not only a boss to me but a friend, he will be missed. God bless you all

    Maria & Family

  36. Julia Griffin-Simpson says:

    I am sorry to hear about your loss. I had no idea, it happened a few months ago. I am living here in Orlando.

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