John P. “Buddy” McCarthy

July 11th, 2014

John P. “Buddy” McCarthy, age 92, a long-time resident of Wilmington, died peacefully at Woodbriar of Wilmington on July 9, 2014.

John was born on March 13, 1922 in Boston, MA; he was the cherished son of the late John and Mary C. (Crowe) McCarthy.  John was raised and educated in South Boston.  John was born deaf, but he did not let his inability to hear limit him.  John became very independent at a young age and learned to communicate with others through sign language and writing tablets.

John married his beloved wife and best friend the late Ruth T. (Boitnott) McCarthy; the couple spent many years together before her passing in September of 2012.  Ruth was also hearing impaired, but again, this did not stop John and Ruth from having a wonderful life as they traveled across most of the United States, including a road trip to Alaska and back, and visiting many different countries; they were always so anxious to get back and share their stories.  John was very warm, welcoming, and friendly; he and Ruth loved to throw parties for their friends and neighbors just to get everyone together.

John and Ruth moved to Wilmington over fifty years ago to a street which only had five houses on it.  Those neighbors all became a tight knit group who were more like family than neighbors.  John, Ruth, and the other neighbors all confided in each other, looked out for each other, and shared holidays, weddings, and parties.  Although it may seem that John and Ruth had special neighbors to watch over them; the neighbors felt lucky to have John and Ruth in their lives.

John worked as a machinist at Clifford Manufacturing Company, he had a great work ethic and he also counted many of his co-workers as dear friends.  John retired following many years of dedicated service to the Company.  Following retirement, John liked to spend time in his yard, he tinkered around the house, and took up a passion for Bingo never missing a game at the Dear Center in Quincy every Monday night or at the Danvers School for the Deaf on Fridays.  John was always very active and on the go driving himself from one place to the other until his illness forced him to slow down a couple of months ago..

John was very religious and had a great faith in God; he would faithfully attend Mass for the hearing impaired at Mary Immaculate of Lourdes Church in Newton on Sundays which was celebrated by his dear friend Fr. Shawn Carey.

John was very giving of his time, especially supporting the New England Home for the Deaf in Danvers for many years.  It was here that John and Ruth hosted many benefits and supported many causes.  He also worked at Camp Mark 7 in New York, which was a camp, specializing in helping the deaf.

John will be remembered as a kind, friendly, nice person who enjoyed bingo, baseball, parties and going to church.  He had a dry sense of humor, which made his friends laugh.  John’s independence was one of his great strengths and his friends admired him for it the most, he was truly an inspiration to those around him.  John and Ruth will dearly be missed by those who knew and loved them.

John was the beloved husband of the late Ruth T. (Boitnott) McCarthy, cherished son of the late John & Mary C. (Crowe) McCarthy, dear brother of Dorothy Garofano of Braintree and the late Teresa Dunn, Mary Flaherty and Catherine Estrella.  John is also survived by many nieces, nephews and good friends including his dear neighbors Lois & Frank Jason and Eileen & Guy Semonelli.

Family and friends will gather at the Nichols Funeral Home, 187 Middlesex Ave. (Rte. 62), Wilmington, on Monday, July 14th at 9:00 a.m. followed by a Funeral Mass in St. Thomas of Villanova Church, 126 Middlesex Ave., Wilmington at 10:00 a.m.  Interment will take place in Wildwood Cemetery.  Visiting hours will be held at the Funeral Home on Sunday, July 13th from 1:00-4:00 p.m.

Memorial donations in John’s name may be made to the Charity of One’s Choice.


5 Entries in Guest Book for “John P. “Buddy” McCarthy”

  1. Carole Estrella says:

    May you rest in peace, Uncle Buddy.

  2. Dorothy Garofano says:

    My dear brother, I will miss you deeply. Rest in Peace. Love, Dotty

  3. Richard & Barbara Garofano says:

    Uncle John, we will always have great memories of you. Love Richard & Barbara

  4. Lynne Flaherty says:

    Uncle Buddy,

    May you rest peacefully with Aunt Ruthie, Aunt Kay, Aunt Winnie and
    Grammy. May you watch over our entire family from above but most of
    all Aunt Dotty and Theresa send them both your strength daily. Our family
    gatherings will never be the same without the old crew. Thank you for all
    the fond family memories. May you greet and give everyone up in heaven lots of hugs and Flaherty kisses from us all.
    As the Irish Blessing states:

    “May the road rise up to meet you
    May the wind be always at your back
    May the sun shine warm upon your face
    And the rain fall soft upon your fields
    And until we meet again
    May God hold you in the palm of his hand”

    Love you to the moon and back,
    Lynne, Alyssa and Olivia

  5. Joseph Salvucci says:

    Uncle buddy … You and your wonderful wife Ruth are great, caring people who always thinks of others first … You and Ruth will be sorely missed … Rest in peace and look over us ! Love you Buddyand Ruth!!!!

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