Martin F. “Marty” Tildsley, Sr.

July 28th, 2021

Martin F. Tildsley, Sr. “Marty” age 64, a life-long resident of Wilmington, passed away peacefully at home on July 27, 2021, following a courageous battle with ALS.

Marty was born on March 21, 1957 in Winchester; MA; he was the dear son of the late Jim and Claire Tildsley. Marty was raised in a loving family in Wilmington as the youngest of three brothers who remained very close throughout their lives. Marty played town sports, made many life-long friends, attended Wilmington Public Schools and graduated Wilmington High School with the Class of 1976.

In 1980, Marty married the love of his life and best friend, Carol Donovan. Marty and Carol were the proud parents of two wonderful sons, Marty, Jr and Ryan. Marty was very devoted to his family; he loved spending time with his sons and was heavily involved in Wilmington youth sports, coaching T-Ball, Little League, travel basketball, and Pop Warner. When not coaching a team, he was often seen in the stands rooting for his boys as well as their many friends. Marty and Carol had an “open door” policy at their home; they were often hosting family cookouts at their back yard pool, family holidays or any other occasion to get everyone together. They were also very gracious to Marty Jr. and Ryan’s many friends who enjoyed “hanging out” at the Tildsley house.

Marty shared his love of Boston Sports Teams with his sons and brothers; he was an avid fan and very enthusiastic at every game. Red Sox, Celtics, Bruins and his beloved Patriots; as a group they would attend countless games throughout the years; he even held season tickets to the Pat’s for many years. During football season when not attending a game, Marty and Carol, headed over to his brother Sid’s house where family and friends gathered, they took their favorite stools at the outdoor bar and had a great afternoon or evening with the “gang”.

Marty looked forward to family camping trips at the Adams Campground in Seabrook, New Hampshire, where he and Carol, along with their family and friends spent many weekends and family vacations. Marty went on to share these past times with his grandsons later in life as their beloved Papa.

Marty was a hard worker, for over 35 years he was a letter carrier for the USPS in Tewksbury. Marty’s great personality and sense of humor as well as customer service skills made him quite an asset to the Post Office, it is well known that he was loved by the Town of Tewksbury, his customers and his peers.

In his free time Marty was an avid collector of nostalgic memorabilia; he enjoyed the Three Stooges and old Westerns. Marty found some of the most unique items and carefully displayed them for all to see.

Marty was a long-time member of the Tewksbury Knights of Columbus, where he had many friends. He enjoyed going to Kitty’s Restaurant with his wife Carol and his brothers, Sid and Jim; where they always had a good meal and would play a few games of Keno just to try their luck. Marty was also very proud of being a million-dollar scratch ticket winner from the MA state lottery.

Marty will be fondly remembered as a funny guy who he loved telling a good joke or pulling a good prank on his family and friends. Marty loved people especially his family and friends who he would do anything for. Marty was an all around great guy and will forever be missed by all who knew and loved him.

Marty was the beloved husband of the late Carol (Donovan) Tildsley, the loving father of Martin Tildsley, Jr. and his wife Marlene of Wilmington and Ryan Tildsley and his wife Suzanne of Tewksbury. Devoted Papa to his grandsons Daniel, Logan, Derek, Dylan and Lawson. Cherished son of the late James Tildsley and Claire (O’Neil) Tildsley. Dear brother of James Tildsley and his wife Katherine of Boston and Sidney Tildsley and his wife Sharon of Wilmington. Son-in-law of Dana and Carolyn Donovan of Chelmsford. Brother-in-law of Debra & Michael Soha of Chelmsford, Joseph & Rhonda Donovan of Lowell, Mary & James Tully of Dracut, Julie & Timmy McNamara of Chelmsford and Kevin & Tracey Donovan of Lowell. Marty is also survived by many special nieces, nephews, and friends. Marty and Carol were predeceased by their precious dog, Keno.

When Marty’s family lost their beloved Carol this past February during the pandemic they were saddened to not have been able to have a public service so they would like everyone to know that all are welcome to attend Marty’s wake and funeral Mass and they will have a Memorial display to honor Carol as well.

All Family and friends are welcome to gather for Visiting Hours at the Nichols Funeral Home, 187 Middlesex Ave. (Rte. 62), Wilmington, MA, on Sunday, August 1st from 2:00-6:00 p.m. A Mass of Christian Burial will take place in St. Thomas of Villanova Church, 126 Middlesex Ave. Wilmington, on Monday August 2nd at 10:30 am. Interment to follow at Wildwood Cemetery, Wilmington.

In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation in Marty’s memory to the Angel Fund for ALS Research 649 Main St., Wakefield, MA 01880.


34 Entries in Guest Book for “Martin F. “Marty” Tildsley, Sr.”

  1. Sharon tildsley says:


  2. Thomas & Donna Flaherty says:

    Sorry for your loss, Marty was a great guy we have some great memories of us growing up. Prayers for him and his family.????????

  3. Deb Tildsley Verrier says:

    To Marty’s loving family and friends, our sincere condolences and sympathy to all of you in the loss of this beloved man taken too soon ???? may all of the wonderful memories give you peace and hope that you will be joined together again one day ?? Marty was one of the funniest cousins we had growing up and how he had just a zest for Life! May that follow all of us for the rest of our lives. Rest In Peace Marty ?? Deb & Rick

  4. Victor Woodroffe says:

    Deepest condolences to the family during this difficult time. May he rest in peace.

  5. Brian Tildsley says:

    “IS UNCLE MARTY & AUNTIE CAROL COMING?” – As a little boy, that would be the question I’d ask for every party and family gathering my parents would host. Even at a youthful age I would always want them there. They were a great pair to be around. When around them you knew you’d have so much fun with Marty & get so much love from Carol. Jokes and breaking chops all day from your crazy uncle, mixed with compliments and hugs from your little sweet Aunt… It was the best! As I grew to have my own family parties; I was proud when my own kids started to ask that same question… is Marty & Carol coming?

    “THE WHITE LIE” PRE-GAME SPEECH IN MALDEN – For many years, my uncle Marty helped me patrol the sidelines at the Minuteman Football games. Marty was a huge supporter of my coaching. One year, on Thanksgiving I was in a real bind for a good pre-game speech for my players. I will never forget Marty stepping up in the middle of the huddle and telling them how he was a mail carrier in Malden for his day job. Even though my dad and I knew full well he worked in Tewksbury, the white lie worked flawlessly. He went on to tell the guys how “sick he was of hearing all the trash talking along his route day in and day out leading up to the game”! “Those Minuteman kids stink” – “We are going to beat them really bad” – “They have no chance to win” – he shouted to my guys (keeping a straight face the whole time). Well needless to say, Marty worked them up into a really good frenzy… they ran out there mad as hornets and we won that game.

    SUNDAY TRADITIONS WILL NEVER DIE – We started with a respect and love of the way Doug Flutie used to play. Every Sunday we would get together at my dad’s house and watch Dougie run around for the Patriots, Bills & Chargers. I watched Doug’s drop kick through the uprights with my uncle Marty sitting right next to me! Then came along a guy named Tom… He was everything Marty loves about an athlete…Smart, tough and a winner too. For the last 20 years our Sundays have been planned around watching Tom together as a family. Whether it was outside on my dad’s patio in the sun or at my house on the big screen when it rained… Marty and Carol were there. This year we will set (2) spots at the bar every Sunday and do our best to replicate Auntie’s famous Shepard’s Pie, while cheering on Tommy for Uncle Marty!

    THE LOST ART OF TALKING ON THE PHONE – In this day and age of texting & social media, communicating with each other is mostly done now with our thumbs. But not with Uncle Marty. To this day I still have his old land line, phone number memorized in my head. Carol would usually pickup first (always with a sweet greeting) and yell out to him “Marty it’s Brian”. He would always stop what he was doing and come to the phone. Like his mother before him (Nana-Claire) he was great to talk on the phone with. He always was interested in the family and what was going on with all the Tildsleys. He was a great listener who always could make you laugh at one point in the conversation. Even when he changed to a cell phone, we would still talk at least twice a week. Those phone calls I will miss the most!

    I know you told Erica you wanted to “be with your Carol” – I know you missed her so much! I watched Your Big Brothers suffer along with you every day this last year… No More Pain Now Uncle!

    Give Carol one of those a big hugs from Erica, Tayla, Sidney, James & Sonny!
    “May Heaven Hold the Souls of the Faithful Departed” – Love your nephew Bri

  6. Julie McNamara says:

    To All of the Tildsley Family,
    So hard to believe that Marty is gone .
    He has been a huge part of our family for over 40 years .
    So many happy memories & and always able to make you smile or laugh through difficult times .
    You were the Best Santa at every Donovan Family Christmas &
    always had a way of commanding the large excited crowd. Making each niece & nephew feel special as they waited to hear their name called.Our family is left with a big hole without you. We Love you Marty & will miss you
    May you & Dear Carol Rest In Peace .
    Julie & Reggie

  7. Sissy Tildsley Schmidt says:

    Our deepest condolences to Marty’s family and friends. Rest In Peace Marty!

  8. Linda & Brenden Tague says:

    May you both Rest in Peace together. We have lost the best neighbors we have ever had. You will both be missed! We send our heartfelt condolences
    to the family, if you need anything we are here.

  9. Bruce and Heidi says:

    We are deeply sadden to hear of the loss of Marty and Carol. We will always remember Marty telling the Bar Tender at our wedding that he was the Post Master at the Post Office if he wanted to get a job with the USPS to come in and see him. May Marty and Carol RIP.

  10. CATHY OROURKE says:

    I am heartbroken about the loss of not one good friend, but two in such a short time. Marty and Carol were more than friends to me and my children, they were family. For over a decade we were happy to spend many holidays together as well as sharing our grandsons with school and sports events to keep us busy.

    They lived the simple life not straying farther than a few miles to visit a relative or go to a local restaurant. This is what made them happy. A lot can be learned about what is important in life from them.

    During the pandemic my doorbell would ring with a bag of food left for me, both of them waving and throwing kisses while backing out of my driveway. This is who they were and this is what made them special. Rest in peace by dear friends. love you both

  11. Ron & Kathy Hubert says:

    Words cannot express the sadness of loosing 2 great humans. May they both rest in peace knowing that they both brought so much to the people that they leave behind. So many good times from years ago. RIP Marty & Carol, XOXO

  12. Bob Stewart says:

    To Jimmy, Sid and the rest of the Tildsley clan, I’m so sorry for the loss of Marty. His brothers and other family members tried to make Marty’s life as easy as physically possible after his diagnosis with that dreaded ALS.
    I have know the boys for almost 60 years, 3 of the funniest guys you will ever meet. They got it from their dad, Old man Tilds as we called him. Greatest guy ever. Hanging at the house, playing BBall, or heading to the North School to play something. Marty always tagged along. Great memories and as we get older we see our old friends passing on. It’s tough. But Marty is not suffering anymore, and that is comforting.

  13. Bob Butters says:

    Sharing in your sadness as you remember Marty.

  14. Debl Soha says:

    I don’t even know what to say. Cannot even believe that two of my most favorite people are gone. You both have left such a huge hole in our hearts. Life will never be the same. You were both the most loving and caring people on this earth, the biggest hearts. You loved family gatherings and made me promise that we would continue to have Christmas gatherings after we had to miss one. We love you both so so much and am going to miss you every day.

  15. Joan and George Phillips says:

    Our condolences to Marty Jr., Ryan, Jim, Sid, and the entire Tildsley family.

  16. Kathryn Graham says:

    I am so heart broken to hear the news of Marty’s passing. He was our Mailman for many,many years and always had a treat for my dog. Marty and I would shoot the breeze for a few minutes and he always had a good story to tell me. I loved how he would proudly tatto his leg with the names of his grandsons. He truly was a special man. To his entire family, I am so sorry for you all, but wow what great memories you have . Hold on tight to those memories .

  17. Mark Nelson says:

    Condolences to the entire Family, we shared so many sporting moments in the 60’s and 70’s, thank you all.

  18. Pam(Hadfield)McDade says:

    Jimmy, Sid, and entire Tildsley Family, So sorry to hear of Marty’s passing. He will surely be missed by family, friends, and the Wilmington Community. He was always friendly, and lighted up the room. Let the memories and fun times with Marty fill your hearts. Deepest Sympathy.

  19. Cathy and Dave Norton says:

    Our hearts go out to all of Marty and Carol’s beautiful family… Marty, Jr, Ryan, their grandsons, daughters-in-law, brothers, nephews, nieces and the whole Tildsley clan. Treasure all those warm and wonderful memories! In sympathy and prayer, Dave and Cathy Norton

  20. Sully says:

    When you are lucky enough to have a front row seat to many Tildsley family outings like I have in the past 10 years, you know the lose of these two wonderful people is devastating to everyone who loved them. Big Marty with a funny joke and Auntie Carol with all the love. Jay and I spent last night talking of so many great memories. I just keep picturing them as happy as ever at Kelly’s wedding. What a great time we all had. I’m happy they are together again and you all have each other, and a lifetime of memories together! Stay strong, till we see them again…
    Love Sully

  21. James Hadfield says:

    Thanks for being a best friend for 55 years. A lifetime of great times and memories. One of the last things you said to me was “I’m not going anywhere” and for me that will always be true. Carol was the sweetest person I will ever know. For both of you it was simple……family and friends and you did it right.

  22. Danny Sprague’ says:

    I am sorry for your loss my condolence to you and your family he was a great friend

  23. Pat Taylor Sr says:

    I’m sorry for your loss, they both will be missed. We had a fantastic time together coaching Ryan and Pat and then watching them play in High School. I will miss Marty’s sense of humor and Carol always welcomed Pat to their home and treated him as if he was one of her’s and I will never forget that. Now Marty can finally get the Three Stooges autograph now, who knows maybe there will 4 stooges going forward. RIP Carol and Marty we will meet again.

  24. Sidney A. Tildsley says:

    So so sorry to hear of the passing of Marty. May God touch you all with his healing hand and give you the strength, comfort, and peace to get through this. Cousin Sid-Ohio

  25. Kevin & Linda Veator says:

    Marty and Carol were angels sent to us to have and hold for a short time. Marty was the brother I never had and God gave me the best of the best. Brothers from different mothers. The four of us spent endless hours together, truly the fondest memories together which Linda and I will cherish until the four of us meet in heaven. I know Marty will have a cold beer and a Goldman and tonic waiting. We love you and life will never be the same without our two angels. Marty Jr. and Ryan are like sons to us and always will. Let God heal your hearts with memories Marty Jr. and Ryan, we love you.

  26. Suzi Cushing says:

    Jim and Sid, I was so sad to hear about Marty, he sounded like an amazing person and brother. I am sure he and Carol are together watching down over you all. I am thinking about all of you and sending my love.

  27. Bob Myers says:

    Goodbye my good friend so sorry im not there so i could say a final farewell to a friend i will miss till we meet again im so glad u are no longer in pain or suffering ill miss u and carol forever u were 2 great people and im so lucky to have known both of u love u both bob myers

  28. Bonnie Hebsch says:

    Deepest sympathy to the Tildsley family. Marty was always known for his sense of humor. He will be missed by all. Rest In Peace.

  29. John and Heidi Nooney says:

    So sorry for your loss. Simply Marty was a great guy who I enjoyed talking with when he delivered our mail. He will be missed. To this day my dog who Marty was fond of looks for him whenever he sees a Mail truck. Rest In Peace

  30. Joanne Tildsley Troville says:

    To all Marty’s family and friends I send my deepest condolences. 64 is just too young. Cherish all those great memories they will help. He is with the love of his life and can you imagine being united with Uncle Jimmy, Uncle Sid and my dad? Rest in peace Marty and Carol.

  31. Jean Batty says:

    It has been a pleasure helping your family. Please know that you are always part of the CCALS family. May Marty and Carol rest in peace.

  32. Chip Bruce says:

    Marty & Ryan, I’m so sorry to hear of your Dad’s passing. He was a great guy and I chuckle every time I think of him. One of the funniest guys I ever met. I know he was an amazing father too. You were lucky to have him as a Dad. The entire Tildsley family will be in my thoughts and prayers. ????????

  33. Jim Ritchie says:

    Jimmy and Sid, sorry to hear about the loss of Marty

  34. Mark Coursey says:

    Sorry to hear about his passing away. He was always telling jokes but made people laugh. Knew him since elementary school and considered him a friend. My thoughts and prayers go to the Tildsley family.

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