Richard “Dick” Hayden

April 13th, 2021

Richard K. Hayden “Dick”, age 82, of Wilmington, formerly of Somerville, passed away peacefully on April 12, 2021.

Dick was born on March 16, 1939; he was the dear son of the late Mary (Donovan) Hayden. Dick was raised and educated in Somerville; he went on to put himself through private school by caddying at Winchester Country Club and graduated from Malden Catholic High School; an accomplishment to which he was very proud of.

Dick met his wife Joan or his “Joanie Girl” as he fondly referred to her while working at First National. The couple were soon inseparable and were married on June 30, 1962. They moved to Wilmington in 1966 where they raised a beautiful family.

Dick had many interests including his love of learning, reading, golf, sports, music, theater & travel. He had a genuine curiosity and interest in what others were doing. Family, faith & service were the most important things in his life along with a strong work ethic to which Dick always led by example.

He loved hanging with the guys at the Knights of Columbus, on the golf course at Thompson Country Club where he was a long-standing member or catching countless sporting events. Dick loved his Boston sports teams, but he especially enjoyed following the New England Patriots where he was a season ticket holder for 40 years or the Boston College Eagles football team where he held his season tickets for 35 years. He was an avid fan of local youth and college sports, whether or not he knew anyone personally playing. Dick loved to dance and talk with everyone; he never met a “stranger”.

Dick never forgot his Somerville roots and was proud of that as well as his time in the Marines. He felt very strongly that the Marines, as well as his catholic school education taught him life lessons and helped to guide him. Dick had a thirst for knowledge and a craving for self-improvement; he spent 13 years in night school while raising a family and managed to earn his Associates Degree from Bentley College then on to Northeastern University for his Bachelor’s Degree and finally his Master’s Degree from Boston College. Dick always encouraged his six children and eighteen grandchildren to pursue their own interests through education and he was always there to help and support them in any way. Dick was always so proud to march in the annual Memorial Day Parade in Wilmington along with his fellow Veterans. Dick also enjoyed a successful career in operations and information systems starting out at First National grocery stores, then moving to GSX, Cabot Corporation, Fresenius Medical Care and the May Institute.

It was not uncommon to walk into the Hayden household on Arlene Ave. and find Dick with one of his kids (or a friend’s son or daughter) sitting at the dining room table going over their resume or discussing a difficult work or school situation. He guided all to think through solutions with a leaning towards what was best for your career but also your family. He felt strongly that new opportunities and experiences were the best learning opportunities. Dick encouraged everyone to do their best and was quite a mentor to many. In his retirement he volunteered his time as part of the Wilmington Finance Committee, the Friends of the Library and Wilmington Education Foundation.

Dick wanted to see the world and he did with his wife Joan – traveling with her, as well as family and friends was a great joy. Although seemingly opposites, nothing was more important to him than his wife. They were partners in every way as they raised their children and genuinely enjoyed their time together golfing, traveling, dancing at the K of C with friends or hosting their family at the house – especially by the pool!

On any given weekend Dick would have a list of maybe 10 or so sporting events to watch of the grandkids. He would travel all over the place to watch hockey, soccer, baseball, lacrosse, football, track, basketball, field hockey – basically anything the grandkids did. He was also a fixture at dance recitals for his daughters & granddaughters for many years – absolutely enjoying every performance.

Dick will be fondly remembered as a “great guy”, a true family man and a trusted friend to many; he will forever be in the hearts of those he loved.

Dick was the beloved husband of Joan Hayden (White), devoted father of Michele and Bryon Kincaid (Wilmington), Laurie & Dennis Robarge (Wilmington), Andrea & Eric Braciska (Tewksbury), Richard & Maureen Hayden (Wilmington), Jennifer & Eric Cushing (Wilmington) and Jacqui & Tim Allard (Wilmington). He was the Loving “Pa” of Jonathan Kincaid & wife Marion, Matthew Kincaid & wife Kristin, Zachary Kincaid, Nicholas Robarge & fiancée Meaghan, Hayley Robarge & fiancé Kyle, Caroline Robarge, Christian Robarge, Allyson, Meghan & Kyle Braciska, Emily, Melanie & Ryan Hayden, Shea, Owen & Luke Cushing, Colin & Emma Allard and his Great-Grandsons Ben, Jonathan & Jake Kincaid. He was the dear brother of James Hayden & wife Carol (Stoneham) and the late Edie Previdi & husband Bill (Gloucester), son-in-law of the late Leonard & Winifred White, brother-in-law of Leonard & Maureen White (Burlington) and the late Lois & Richard Jackson. He is further survived by many nieces and nephews.

Family and friends will gather for Visiting Hours in St. Thomas of Villanova Church, 126 Middlesex Ave., Wilmington, MA, on Friday, April 16th from 4:00-8:00 p.m. A Mass of Christian Burial will take place in the Church on Saturday, April 17th at 10:00 a.m. Interment with Military Honors will follow in Wildwood Cemetery, Wilmington. Masks are required to be worn while in Church.

In lieu of flowers, donations in Dick’s memory may be made to the Alzheimer’s Association, 309 Waverley Oaks Road, Waltham, MA 02452 or to Local Heroes, Inc., P. O. Box 536, Wilmington, MA 01887.


24 Entries in Guest Book for “Richard “Dick” Hayden”

  1. Kevin P Doherty says:

    To Dick’s family,

    Dick and I grew up in Somerville, he, graduated from Malden Catholic and Boston College. He served his country in United State Marine Corps, all of which he was extremely proud of. He loved his God and loved and was loved by his family. He was a gentleman in every sense of the word. I am honored to have known him and call him a friend.
    He lived his life with the USMC motto “Semper fidelis” to his family and friends
    May he RIP.
    Until we meet again
    “May the road rise up to meet you, may the wind be always at your back, may the sun shine warm upon your face…”

  2. Sally and Stan Radomski says:

    Stan and I send our prayers and deepest sympathies to Joan and all of the Hayden families. Dick was a very caring person and was always involved in his children and grandchildren’s lives. He was an active member of the Wilmington Community. He will be greatly missed.

  3. Marissa and Joe LoGrasso says:

    Joe and I send our prays and love ??. We are always here if you guys need anything. Dick was always such a nice guys and I’ll always remember him calling me the basketball girl. He will be greatly missed.

  4. The Sica Family says:

    To the Cushing / Hayden / Robarge Family:
    We are so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.

  5. Adrienne says:

    Thinking of you all at this difficult time, I have so many fond memories from chilhood
    My sincere condolences, Adrienne

  6. Yvonne and Paul Berman says:

    We are sorry for your loss. We have fond memories of meeting “Jen’s mom and dad” at Salve Regina.
    Our thoughts are with all of the Hayden family.

  7. Paul Legere says:

    My deepest sympathies rich please accept my apologies as I will be out of town and not be able to attend the services on Friday but he will be in my prayers.

  8. Chris and Paula Barry says:

    So sorry to hear about this
    Paula and I will miss when we use to see you walking around Arlene Ave
    God bless

  9. Susan hewitt says:

    Jenn and the Hayden family, I am very sorry for your loss. May you all keep your happy memories close to your hearts. May he rest in peace in God’s loving embrace. Jenn you took care of my dad when he was ill and passed in 1995. We remember the wonderful care you provided him and us. You even came to pay your respects to him. Our family appreciated it more than you know. Sending thoughts and prayers. Susan hewitt and the family of Thomas Barry.

  10. Bill Kennedy says:

    Sorry to hear of Dick’s passing. I remember speaking to him at many high school soccer games and youth hockey games. I think he knew almost every kid in Wilmington and what sports they played. He did a great job running the Knights of Columbus Free-Throw contests ever year. He’ll be missed! My thoughts and prayers to his family.

  11. Bob & Pat Kelly says:

    So sorry to hear the loss of Dick’s passing. Always remember Dick at the K of C functions…always had a hello and a great smile. You are all in our thoughts and prayers.

    Bob & Pat Kelly

  12. Judy Kincaid says:

    So sorry for your loss. Dick always greeted you with a smile and telling you how beautiful you looked. Will miss you Dick Hayden. Prayers for the family.

  13. The Hooper Family says:

    Our deepest condolences to the entire family for your loss. He was a great guy and a good friend he will be truly miss.
    Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.

  14. Mark E. Sullivan says:

    So sorry to learn of Dick’s passing. I would see him many times at church and also at Tom Casey’s anniversary Mass and collation. Also, I had worked for years with Michele’s husband’s uncle and aunt, Al and Mary Kincaid.
    Sending our prayers and love to all the family.

  15. Bob Dorval says:

    So sorry to hear of the Dick’s passing. I have to give Dick credit for the start of my Information Technology career as I worked for him back in the SCA Services days. Funny how a casual career conversation during a pick up basketball game lead to satisfying career.

    He will be missed, may he rest in peace.


  16. Sarah Cronin says:

    Mr. Hayden’s amazing children and grandchildren must have brought him an amazing amount of joy. I am grateful for Mrs. and Mr. Hayden for raising such a wonderful clan that I have had the pleasure to be around. What a testimony to a very wonderful person.

  17. The Hartka Family says:

    We all send our deepest sympathy to the Hayden family for your loss. We remember Dick for his smile, his kind words, his faith, and his friendship. Dick was a class act and he will be missed in our hearts and in our community. God Bless.

  18. Ramalingam Ramakrishnan(Rama) says:

    Heartfelt Condolences to Rich and Family !!!
    May god give them all the courage to go through the tough times…
    Will keep Mr. Hayden in our prayers… Rest in Peace !!!

  19. Midge OLeary says:

    Joan and family sorry for your loss he was a great friend and he will sadly missed. I remember all the fun we had and the traveling we did together they are great memories that will last. Love and prayers to all of you at this time.

  20. jack cushing says:

    A big loss to the family, his friends, his competitors, and the entire Wilmington Community. I will miss a “TRUE” friend, making coffee for him at his Grandkids/ Wildcat athletic events, our fundraising/community events, our fundraising golf teams, family parties at the pool, and our trips to the North Shore Music Theatre. Sandie and My prayers are with YOU and your FAMILY. Rest in Peace my Friend – YOU TOTALLY EARNED IT!!!!!!!

  21. Nancy McMahon says:

    Dear Michele, Laurie and all your families,
    Truly sorry for the loss of your Dad. He was a fixture around Wilmington. He and your Mom raised kids who obviously value the true meaning of family. That’s very special and I know you will all support each other as you get through this difficult time. Thinking of all of you and wishing you peace.

  22. Don and Rita Boudreau says:

    Dear Hayden Family, we are so sorry for your loss. Keeping you all in our thoughts and prayers at this difficult time.

  23. Beryl Lynch says:

    Fondly remember the entire Hayden family. Would see Dick, always looking “dapper” & Joan walking together…staples st St. Thomas Church & Sunnyside Cafe where Dick & my husband John would talk sports & Boston College. Our sincere condolences to the family. Nothing Golden lasts forever… RIP, Dick.

  24. Haggerty Family says:

    I’m so sorry to hear of Dicks passing. I had many wonderful conversations with him at his grandson Luke’s baseball games. His presence will be missed! I am glad I got the opportunity to meet this wonderful down to earth man. Our deepest condolences go out to all of his family.

    The Haggerty Family

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