Thomas F. Thornton, Jr.

December 23rd, 2020

Thomas F. Thornton, Jr., age 78, a long-time resident of Wilmington, passed away on December 21, 2020.

Tom was born on December 22, 1941 in Boston, MA; he was the cherished son of the late Thomas F. and Vera (Kohler) Thornton. He was raised in Dorchester and graduated from Boston Technical High School. Following graduation, Tom attended Boston University, where he earned his Bachelor’s degree in Aeronautical Technology. He later furthered his education, while balancing a busy home life and helping to care for three young children, at Suffolk University earning his Master’s degree in Business.

Tom met his wife Carol (Hachey) when they worked together at Transitron. They were married on January 31, 1969. The couple moved to Wilmington in 1973 where they raised their three children: Tom, Brian and Sheila. Tom was a loving husband. The love between Tom and Carol was apparent to all who knew them. He took care of Carol through her two battles with breast cancer. The second of which led to her passing in 2007.

Tom was a devoted father and always supported his children’s interests; attending many games, band performances, plays and dance recitals – many times while holding a heavy camcorder on his shoulder capturing those “golden moments” as he would call them. Despite a busy work schedule, he found time to coach soccer. Tom instilled a strong work ethic in his children. They were given cars to drive, but Tom was smart enough to make his children work to earn them. He helped all three of his children through college and gave them valued advice along the way. He was proud to see all three graduate. Tom also made sure each Christmas was a memorable one, as he and Carol made sure under the tree was full year after year. When his children got married Tom was happy to see the family grow and cared very much for his daughter-in-laws and son-in-law. Tom was even happier when the family grew even more when his grandchildren came along, enjoying his new role of Papa.

Tom worked as a manufacturing engineer for Textron for many years. After Textron, he worked for a few other companies before starting at the IRS, where he worked up until December, 2020. He was very helpful to his customers, whether it was helping with tax returns and refunds or handling identity theft cases.

In his spare time, Tom enjoyed traveling. There were many fun family vacations to Laconia, NH and Hampton Beach, NH. Tom and Carol took many trips to their vacation home in Kissimmee, FL where they had great times with family members who lived in Kissimmee and Saint Cloud. They also spent a lot of time at their condominium in Wells Beach, ME with their wonderful friends who had a place in Wells Beach too. Tom enjoyed watching the stock market and the financial world. He was very knowledgeable in those subjects and liked advising others in those areas. Tom also enjoyed working on home improvement projects. He liked tackling all projects and learning how to fix things on his own. Tom liked attending family celebrations and was always there for weddings, graduations, religious milestones and birthdays. He was known to enjoy an extra “smidge’ of birthday cake from time to time!

He was a devout Catholic, attending Mass regularly at St. Thomas and St. Dorothy’s in Wilmington.

Tom will be remembered as a warm, caring, and giving person. He had a dry sense of humor that many people appreciated. His smile made others smile and he gave the warmest hugs. He was always there for others. He will be greatly missed by his family, friends, neighbors and coworkers. He was a great father, father-in-law, Papa, brother, uncle, teacher, neighbor and friend.

Tom was the beloved husband of the late Carol (Hachey) Thornton, devoted father of Thomas F. Thornton, III & his wife Michelle, Brian D. Thornton & his wife Kristy all of Chelmsford and Sheila Butler & her husband Daniel of Tewksbury, loving “Papa” of Emma, Avery & Trevor Thornton, Sean & Thomas Butler and Quinn & Ashlyn Thornton, cherished son of the late Thomas F. and Vera (Kohler) Thornton, dear brother of John Thornton, Hazel “Mickey” McCallum and Arlene Jackimowicz, the late James Thornton and Henry Thornton.

Family and friends will gather for Visitation at the Nichols Funeral Home, Inc., 187 Middlesex Ave., (Rte. 62), Wilmington on Tuesday, December 29th from 10:00 – 11:45 a.m. immediately followed by a Mass of Christian Burial in St. Thomas Church, 126 Middlesex Ave., Wilmington at 12:00 noon. Interment to follow in Wildwood Cemetery, Wilmington. All guests attending services are required to wear a mask in the Funeral Home and Church.

In lieu of flowers, please consider making a donation in memory of Tom to the Boston Higashi School for Autism, Attn: Development Office, 800 North Main Street, Randolph, MA, 02368.


19 Entries in Guest Book for “Thomas F. Thornton, Jr.”

  1. Rob Curtis says:

    Condolences to the entire Thornton family during this difficult time.

  2. John Jackimowicz says:

    So sorry to hear of Uncle Tom’s passing. I have wonderful memories growing up with Uncle Tom in our lives. He was a special man and will be greatly missed. My family and I send our prayers and condolences. Love Johnny

  3. Pat and Mike Carroll says:

    So sorry for your loss. Big Tom was a wonderful kind man and when Michelle and Tom got married he and Carol became part of my family too. Very sad for us all but Emma said he was with her Nana now. Brought me peace. So remember the great and crazy times. Love you guys.

  4. Brian Kelleher says:

    Tom, Brian, Sheila

    I’m so sorry to hear of your loss, deepest sympathies to you and your family.

  5. Ann Marie and Greg Lee says:

    Sending love and prayers to your entire family during this time.

  6. Linda Colby says:

    Dear Tom, Brian, and Sheila,
    You are all in our thoughts and prayers! So sorry to hear of your Dad’s passing. He was a wonderful uncle and brother. We all have special memories of our times together during the holidays.
    Love, Linda and Arlene

  7. Jeanne & Stephen Peterson says:

    Our love, thoughts and prayers are with you all. May your memories bring you comfort during this difficult time.

  8. Anthony vitale says:

    Our deepest sympathies for the Thornton family. So sorry for your loss.

  9. Nick DiNatale says:

    Sorry to hear about the loss of your Dad. Very sad news in an already difficult year.

  10. Catino Family says:

    We are terribly sorry for the loss of your Dad. Very sad news.

  11. Catino Family says:

    We are so sorry for the loss of your Dad. Very sad news.

  12. Pam and John Gondola says:

    So sorry for the loss of a great man. You’re all in our thoughts and prayers. Love, John and Pam

  13. Bob Anderson says:

    My deepest sympathies to the Thornton family, may loving memories comfort you in this difficult time.

  14. Ida Thornton says:

    Tom, Brian and Sheila,
    Our thoughts are with you at the passing of your father. His passing will leave a big void in all of our lives. Know that you are in our prayers.
    Love ?? Aunt Ida and Uncle John

  15. Eileen Schmitt says:

    Tom, Brian, Sheila

    I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your families.

  16. Colleen Parr says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. Such a good guy. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
    Love, Coll

  17. Boston Higashi School says:

    The Staff and Students at Boston Higashi School extend our heartfelt condolences to the entire Thornton Family. May “Papa” rest in peace.

  18. Carol Rocco says:

    So sorry to hear. Your father and mother are together now.

  19. Mark Convery says:

    My wife and I lived next to the Thorntons’ for almost 30 years. Carol and my wife worked in the public school kitchens together. They were wonderful neighbors to have and Shelia use to babysit for us. Many summer afternoons my two children spent in their pool with Carol and my wife chatting on the deck.
    Tommy, Brian and Shelia, we are very sorry for your loss.

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