Matthew “Mattie” DePasquale

December 9th, 2014

Matthew J. DePasquale, “Mattie”, age 52, a life-long resident of Wilmington, died peacefully on December 9, 2014 at the Lahey Clinic in Burlington following a long and courageous battle with Kidney Disease.

Mattie was born on August 12, 1962; he was the cherished son of the late Rocco and Rita DePasquale. Mattie was raised and educated in Wilmington in his early years and went on to graduate from Austin Prep High School in Reading with the Class of 1980. Mattie loved playing youth hockey in Wilmington and was the goalie for the Austin Prep Cougars.

Mattie had a great work ethic and a personality to match; he spent many years working alongside his family at Rocco’s Restaurant before taking over with his brother Chuckie following the retirement of their dad Rocco. Mattie loved to cook and could often be found sitting with his customer’s and chatting about their lives and their families. Mattie was always very welcoming to the Wilmington High School students and sports teams and hosted many fundraisers, banquets and pre-game dinners for them. One of Mattie’s passions was cooking for the Boston Bruins following their practices at Ristuccia Rink. Mattie loved to interact with the team players; they always had a great time together.

In his spare time, Mattie enjoyed tinkering with gadgets, sports cars, and his many “toys” but most of all he loved to go fishing. He felt most at peace on a boat in the middle of the ocean waiting for the fish to bite. Mattie’s annual fishing trips with his daughter Melanie to celebrate her birthday were some of their favorite memories. Melanie loved talking with her dad because he always knew the right thing to say to make her day.

Mattie was known to be quite a “history buff”; he loved to read and research books and articles on World War II and the Vietnam War. Mattie was very proud of his father in law, as well as all of the men and women past and present that served the country and would do anything to help out various Veterans organizations.

Mattie was a “giver” of his time, talents, and funds to every worthy cause in the community. He helped with Strings Attached, various school events, sporting events, and community fund raisers, just to name few and he did this without seeking any recognition. In honor of his selflessness and outstanding citizenship, the community of Wilmington recognized him by awarding him the 2005 Good Guy Award. Mattie was well deserving of this award and more for his kindness to others.

Mattie will be fondly remembered for his unconditional love and support for his family. Mattie always beamed with such pride when he spoke of his wife, daughters, parents, siblings, nieces, and most of all when he spoke of his adored grandson Mason. He loved playing with his “beautiful boy” and diligently tried to teach the baby to say “Grampy.” Mattie had a great sense of humor and enjoyed playing practical jokes on his family and friends. Mattie loved having his family together for holidays, family vacations, or any celebration that could bring the “gang” together. Mattie and his family enjoyed traveling and their recent trip to Europe, especially seeing Italy, was a trip of a lifetime that will be cherished for years to come.

Mattie handled his life with courage and strength through the adversity of his illness, never giving in and fighting for every day. He is truly and inspiration that led his life by example and he will be greatly missed by his family, friends, and a grateful community.

Mattie was the beloved husband of Jane M. (Estrella) DePasquale, devoted father of Alison and Melanie DePasquale, loving “Grampy” of Mason Matthew, all of Wilmington. Cherished son of the late Rocco and Rita (Lydon) DePasquale, dear brother of Mark DePasquale & his wife Christine of Salem, NH, Rocco “Chuck” DePasquale & his wife Denise, Mary-Jo Cann, and Regina LeBlanc & her husband Chris all of Wilmington. Uncle of Kaitlyn & Carley Cann, Courtney DePasquale, Samantha & Lauren DePasquale, Alex, Chloe, & Jordan LeBlanc, Kaylee, Emma, & Lindsay Estrella, son-in-law of Anthony & Michele Estrella of Florida and Mary Jane Estrella of Rhode Island, brother-in-law of Rev. Brian Estrella & his wife Katie of Rhode Island. Mattie is also survived by many aunts, uncles, cousins, and friends.

Family and friends will gather for Visiting Hours at the Nichols Funeral Home, 187 Middlesex Ave. (Rte. 62), Wilmington, on Thursday, December 11th from 3:00 – 8:00 p.m. Mattie’s Funeral Service will be held at the Wilmington United Methodist Church, 87 Church St. (Rte. 62), Wilmington on Friday, December 12th at 10:00 a.m. Interment to follow in Wildwood Cemetery, Wilmington. Memorial donations in Matthew’s name may be made to the National Kidney Foundation, 85 Astor Ave., Suite 2, Norwood, MA 02062 or Donate Life New England, 60 First Ave., Waltham, MA 02451.


42 Entries in Guest Book for “Matthew “Mattie” DePasquale”

  1. John Reid says:

    There are no words to express my sorrow & sadness to hear of Matties passing.
    You DePasquales are a great family. May you all stay strong, & May God bless you all.
    I will miss Mattie.
    I send you a hug chuck, Love John Reid

  2. Betsy(Palmer)Feeley says:

    There are no words at such a sad time. I’ll keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers.

  3. Lisa Muise says:

    Jane, Melanie, Allison and family,
    So very sorry to hear about Mattie. Please know you will all be in my prayers.

  4. Mary Barry Emerick says:

    Mark, Chucky, Regina & Mary-Jo,
    My hear is filled with sadness with the passing of Mattie…We had the best time & lots of laughs when I worked at Rocco’s…He will be missed…
    You are all in my thoughts & prayers during this most difficult time…

  5. Jo-Ann Calo Foss-Warren says:

    My heart is just broken. I remember Matty very well from my waitressing days at Rocco’s. They were like my family. They closed the restaurant to give me a baby shower when I was having my daughter. My late husband worked as a cook for them too. Once you knew them they were your family. My you rest in peace Dear sweet little Matty….

  6. Joe & Phyllis Vieira says:

    There are no words what so ever to express our deepest, deepest sympathy to you, the DePasquale family. He will be greatly missed by many, for he touched many lives in a very special way, a very kind person with a big heart and awesome smile. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you all. May God Bless you all.

  7. Lori & Louie LaMarca says:

    Mattie! Mattie!

    You are such a great person. We will miss you terribly.

    To the DePasquale Family! We are deeply saddened by the loss of such a great guy. Mattie means the world to us. He always went out of his way to help everyone. We are thankful for the time that we spent with him. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you.

  8. Jesse LaMarca says:


    Thanks for all the great talks we always had on Friday’s. Friday nights will never be the same without you. I am fortunate to have a great boss like you. I am sure you are the best boss that I will ever have. I appreciate all that you have taught me and have done for me. I will miss you terribly. My thoughts and prayers go out to all of your family.

  9. Sean And Tricia O'Donoghue says:

    Jane, Melanie and Alison,
    our heart breaks over the news of Mattie. Words can not express our deepest thoughts. Mattie was such an exceptional man. His heart was bigger than anyone we have ever known. The town has lost such a wonderful man. We can only imagine the heartache you are all feeling., Our deepest sympathies, to you all and all his family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all in this difficult time. Stay strong.

  10. George and Michelle Hooper says:

    We are saddened to hear the loss of Mattie a great guy, a wonderful father, husband, brother, uncle and friend to the entire community. He will be deeply missed by us all. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

  11. Janice says:

    So sorry to hear of Mattie’s passing. Our deepest sympathies to family and friends alike. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all! This is a major loss for the Wilmington Community!

  12. Joanne Lukin says:

    Jane, Alison and Melanie,
    (and MaryJane)
    Our heartfelt sympathy to you on the loss of Mattie. He will be sadly missed. May he rest in eternal peace, finally free of his suffering. May your thoughts be filled of the wonderful memories that you have made together so that it may give you strength and peace to carry on.
    With all our love,
    Auntie Joanne, Jill, Joshua and Jon

  13. Susan (Oscar) and Glenn Bergeron says:

    Our family extends our deepest condolences to the DePasquale family in the passing of Mattie. He made the greatest impression on us with his kindness and understanding to all he came to know. The battle he waged to the end displayed the character that we all strive to achieve in our own lives. I don’t need to say that he will be missed by many. Godspeed and Rest In Peace, Mattie. With all of our love, Sue (Oscar, the downstairs wife), Glenn, Geoff and Danny.

  14. Sal Sachetta says:

    Mattie and I met later on in life, we were both in our late 20ties, but in a very short time we became very close, like brothers. I worked in the kitchen with Mattie, side by side there was never a dull moment. During the day I worked as a carpenter but after a long day at work swinging the hammer I looked forward to my nights and weekends working beside this gentle giant!

    So many memories that will stay cherished in my heart! If God was looking for another Angle, he found one in Mattie!!

    My heart felt condolences to his Family, he will be missed.

    Best Wishes,

    Sal Sachetta

  15. Michael and Danielle McCoy says:

    Dear DePasquale family. We are so sorry to hear about Matty’s passing. No doubt, he will be deeply missed not only by your family, but also your customers. Deepest heartfelt sympathies to all of you. Mike and Danielle McCoy

  16. The Gardner says:

    Dear Depasquale Family.
    So very sorry to hear about Mattie’s passing. Our family will never forget him, he was there for us, we will miss him. His generous spirit touched so many lives in ways that will always be treasured.
    “Those who leave sweet memories live forever in our hearts”
    We love you..
    Russ, Bea, Dave, Jeff and Jason Gardner

  17. Gina Schuurman and family says:

    We are so sorry to hear of your loss. You are all in our thoughts and prayers.
    Gina, Tony, Arianna and Alyssa Schuurman

  18. Judson Miller says:

    Dear Chuck, Mark, Mary Jo, and Regina……

    I am so sorry for your loss.

    Mattie was a great man and will be missed by all who knew him.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you all at this most difficult time.

    R.I.P. Mattie

  19. Boyce , Pratt says:

    Deepest condolences to the family, Mattie was a great neighbor ( as well as the entire family.) You are all in our thoughts and prayers.

  20. Kyleen Gorski says:

    Jane so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  21. Ed Walshe says:

    Sleep well my friend.

  22. Katy (Roper) Nordhougen says:

    I’m so sorry to hear of this, Mattie was a great boss! He was the fastest pizza dough tossed and we timed him once, from ball of dough to finished small pizza in 8 minutes! No better sauce, chicken Marsala, or saltimbocca. It’s true this family took in all employees of Rocco’s. Mattie took good care of us and was a kind soul with a hearty laugh. He will be missed by many.
    My deepest sympathy to the whole family who were so wonderful to work for 20+years ago!

  23. katey ray says:

    i still can’t even begin to wrap my head around this,
    Mattie was an amazing person, words can not describe how much he cared for this town and everyone in it, especially those who worked with him at Rocco’s. He was like a father to everyone in that kitchen, and taught us all something very special.
    He’ll live on in our hearts for a long, long time to come, and my thoughts go out to everyone in the DePasquale family, I love you all very much.

    It is often said that the greatness of a mans life can not be measured by how much money or things they have when they are alive, but rather by how many people remember you after you pass on. In Mattie’s case, i think it goes with out saying that he led an insanely great life, surrounded by so many people who loved him and his family. <3

  24. Shelly Fortier says:

    wonderful person will be missed

  25. Bob Welch and family says:

    Mark, Chuck, Regina, Mary-Jo, and the whole DePasquale Family.
    We’re so saddened to hear of Matt’s passing. Such a wonderful person, such a strong and caring man Matt was. I have no doubt, that Matt’s in Heaven, along with your Dad, Mom and Grandparents, helping to run the Rocco’s Resteraunt that resides on the other side of the Gates.

  26. Ed and Eileen Osgood says:

    Our thoughts and prayers go out to the DePasquale family at this sad time. Mattie was a wonderful man and will be deeply missed.

  27. Joanne and Mark LaLiberte says:

    We send our sincere condolences to the entire DePasquale Family. This guest book is an amazing tribute and so heartfelt. It’s so nice to see a community reach out.

  28. Monica Grafals says:

    I am so incredibly sadness by this. I am sending a big hug to his wife and daughter who are extraordinary. He was a very special man.

  29. Kathy Phloridis says:

    Matty will be surely missed. It was a pleasure to see him on a daily basis on his trip to sunrise. He was a great guy.
    From his friends at Sunrise Market

  30. Dawn Tumenas Callahan says:

    Mark, Chucky, Mary Jo and Regina and family I am so sorry for your loss. I have not seen Matty in years. I remember him as a wonderful person who always had everyone laughing. He brighten everyone’s day. My Thought’s and prayers are with all of you

  31. John Bird says:

    Some of my fondest memories as a kid was at Rocco’ in Andover and with my uncle and grandparents living closer too Boston..Rocco’s was a perfect halfway meeting place for us..then in 2006 I purchased my business in Wilmington and Mattie and his brother Chuck immediately welcomed me too the Wilmington family..whether it was talking business,old cars or the Bruins he always had time for everyone..and I will truly miss him..remember…it’s not goodbye…it’s “See you later”

  32. Mike Champoux says:

    To the entire DePasquale family, my wife Doreen and I extend our most sincere condolences. Wilmington has suffered a great loss. Mattie will be missed!
    Mike and Doreen Champoux

  33. Phil and Jonna Axelson says:

    Dear Jane and extended family, We were deeply saddened to learn of your loss. Mattie sounds like a marvelous person and presence. Clearly, he will be sorely missed. Know you are in our prayers at this time of grief.
    Lovingly, Jonna and Phil

  34. Maureen Parsons says:

    We are very sad to hear of Matt’s passing. He was such a big part of the community with his one of a kind smile. Our thoughts and prayers go out to the entire DePasquale Family.

    Wayne, Maureen, Ryan, Erica,and John Parsons

  35. Cindy McNutt says:

    Mattie, I will always love you for reasons Jane, Mark, Chuckmeister, Mary Jo and Regina know well. I thank you for your friendship, humor, mentorship, co-working, etc., etc. We have many memories of taste testing, baby showers, Chernobyl volunteering, making you ‘locked’ woo-woos for after your transplant, tiffany lamp jokes, loaning menthols and so much more. Rest in a painless and healthy peace. Love, your ‘Martha’ <3

  36. Linda Roux says:

    We want to extend our deepest sympathy to the whole family.
    Mattie was such a great guy and loved by all. He will truly be missed.

    Steve, Linda, Christina & Danielle Roux

  37. Carol Hodgdon Preston says:

    Matt you will be greatly missed. Enjoyed knowing you & working with you. Rest in peace

  38. Cheryl Richter says:

    Mattie and his family were part of my childhood. He will be remembered fondly and with a smile. My thoughts and prayers to his family during t his difficult time.

  39. Loretta Khangura (Uhlik) says:

    My heartfelt condolences to the family that meant so much to me all those years ago when I worked with them at Roccos. I have always, and will continue, to recall Mattie and his family with great fondness. You will be missed.

  40. Thomas Babineau & Claire says:

    We are so sorry for your loss. Our deepest sympathy goes out to Matties family.

  41. Linda Williamson says:

    Although I couldn’t make Mattie’s funeral the next day, my thoughts were with all of you. He is at peace now, no more pain and suffering….the fact that the whole town came to pay their respects, says volumes on how this town felt about him and how they feel about you as a family. Love you all!

  42. frank West says:

    To Mattie’s family- Karen and I express our sinsere condolences at the loss of Mattie. Our prayers go out to entire DePasquale Family. Karen and Frank West

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